Why Stephanie is still single

Ξ July 23rd, 2005 | → 18 Comments | ∇ Blogging stuff, Whatever |

Actually, the best title here should be “Why Stephanie is still single and getting divorced” or maybe “A Tale of Two Blogs”

I really like reading other people’s blogs. Some are just atrocious and get no more than a ten second read. Others have outrageous content and are simply impossible not to read, often so flagrantly politically incorrect, you just cannot believe what you read. Still others are written by people who have incredible writing and storytelling skills. They open windows into their lives and souls that range from the hilarious to the tragic. These, of course, are the best ones! I would love to be able to write like those people. I would love to be able to write like that, but I can’t as I have neither their skills nor the ability to let people see too much of me.

One of my favorite blogs was/is thegirliematters and is still on my read list. Sadly, this enormously skilled woman has posted fewer and fewer times over the past year. She states recently, “I developed personal and then professional relationships with people who I met as a result of having the site in the first place, and I realized that maybe there were some things they just did not need to know (like my innermost thoughts, which are sometimes pretty dark; or details of my sex life)”. I understand this. While I admired how she permitted people… strangers really… to enter her inner circle of intimacy, often I wondered at what cost this. Now, I know.

Finding good blogs is getting harder and harder. The blog search engines are jammed with SPAM identical the the shit that fills my email every day. Once I stumble upon a good one, I always check out the Bloglist with the idea that one good blogger knows another. Though that seems reasonable… it is not the case. Often, the blogs listed are just friends whose skills are not equal.

I get the NY Times by email. I generally hate this leftist rag, but read it so I don’t go to far over the edge watching Fox. A couple of days ago, there was an article about a NY woman and her wildly popular blog, greek tragedy. That was how I got to read the blog of Stephanie Klein who is has turned her private life/blog into a book and television deal. You go girl!

Stephanie most assuredly has writing skills and has seen fit to use those skills to provide readers with a most intimate view of her life, her feelings, and her beliefs. She has gained celebrity as few others in the blog biz, her site being one of the 2,000 most read blogs on the net. Helluvan accomplishment given that there are now over 13 million available.

She is also moderately good looking (except for the hair which could use some serious help) apparently trying to mimic one of the fine “ladies” in Sluts Sex in the City. It then struck me as odd that A. She was getting divorced and B. She frequently refers to how difficult it is to find someone.

Here we have a clearly intelligent, reasonably attractive person, a talented and creative individual with a pretty excellent sense of humor. What is the problem? On the surface, this woman should be prime quality. Instead, she appears more to be a pathetic, sex driven, sadly tragic soul. It took a fair bit of reading to find out why as her site is huge. The answer lies here on the page “men to avoid“. Bloggers often like to make lists. If done well (so don’t look for one here), they can provide a realistic and often humorous insight into the person. This page explains to me why Stephanie is still single and having problems.

At first, I thought this a humorous response to “The Emotionally Unavailable Alcoholic’s Guide to Holiday Romance” published in the blog Manhatten Transfer (itself a great bit of writing), but as I read a ton of her Posts, it became clear this was, in fact, her mantra.

So now I know.

Bluntly, she is perhaps one of the more superficial, immature, shallow, money hungry, status seeking people I’ve met through blogs… and I fear a women seemingly devoid of a value system or boundaries. Her fixation on penis size, while humorous, is distressing as she has apparently not yet learned (at age 30 or so) that the most important sex organ is the heart.

Her lack of understanding of men is truly unfortunate.

If she was as socially immature at Barnard as she is now, I can fully understand why she was the only woman in her class not to be invited to join a sorority. They had her number.

I am not sure why she is even looking for a man at this point. Divorce is ugly, and it has been my experience that it takes a year or longer (from the date the papers are signed) for people to get their lives back together. Often it takes longer. Steph just seems to want to hook up again before the body is cold. I am divorced, and it took a long time for me to realize I had lost a fine person and two wonderful children because I was a complete asshole. I swore I would never be that way again, and with few exceptions, I have not.

Every story has two sides… and I’d like to hear from her ex. If in fact he did cheat on her, especially while pregnant, he is pretty clearly a low life in his own right, but it is not surprising they found each other in the first place. He was “the scholar and athlete of the year”… and I think I recall reading that he is a doctor. More superficial status seeking methinks. No depth… just show.

Poor Stephanie seems to be manifesting the promiscuity common to unsuccessful romantics. As one person wrote to her in the comments, “You are absolutely destined to remain alone for the rest of your life. May god have pitty on your lonely sad little soul”. Harsh. More likely poor Steph will seek and find some well hung superficial soulmate and be writing about that failure sometime in the future. She needs to do some serious growing up.

I think secrets can be good. Perhaps not during a relationship, but I do not believe your partner needs to know everything about your past. Maria Luisa is a 40 something woman who was once married and has lived with and traveled to many lands with the other men in her life. I really don’t want to know the details. Generalities suffice. Too much knowledge can make you vain, insecure, bitter, or arrogant… not for me. I know I was not her first. I just want to be her last.

While Girlie seems to want to pull in the reins on sharing her inner self, to regain her privacy… Stephanie keeps no secrets it appears. She is an emotional exhibitionist… seldom a good thing. There is no mystery. There is too much information. Maybe I am wrong. Maybe having no mystery is good, but I really don’t think so.

I like Girlie. Never met her. Exchanged one email a few years back. I think she is perhaps a first rate person. I think she also has figured out that she should keep some things to herself.

I actually like both these women, for their openness, their writing skills, their willingness to share… but I only foresee good stuff for Girlie.



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  1. on September 7th, 2005 at 12:42 am

    The Voice of the Big Apple-Blogga PleaseHis Fault: Why Stephanie is still single

  2. tryst said,

    on July 24th, 2005 at 11:43 pm

    Or you could ask the question………….is the Klein persona all a public face? I suppose part of the issue is the lack of creativity in the entertainment business (and society in general)…….the cute chick who isn’t afraid to talk about sex is a proven formula……..next up are men that like to talk about feelings………..Men are the new women you know!

    Whatever, I’d still like to see her naked.

  3. on July 25th, 2005 at 2:39 am

    You lost me on the ‘To emotionally immature to be accepted at a sorority,’ bit.

    Did you go to college in the 1920’s or something?

    No one is TOO emotinally immature to be in a sorority. Don’t they have “Girls Gone Wild” in Costa Rica yet?

  4. illuminated said,

    on July 25th, 2005 at 7:25 am

    i would say you are pathetic but it would be doing exactly what you are. you do not at all know stephanie klein and believe that you know her through what you read. from there you say some scathing things. all of which are 100% untrue. i do know stephanie and she is one of the most thoughtful, kind, artistic, romantic, self depracating individuals i know. there is never any way to please people like you and the truth is, she doesn’t try to because she writes for herself. if she trued to make money off the blog, you would accuse her of being manipulative. she’s a writer so she got a book deal. take it at face value. she found her life interesting to write about people related to it so a publisher said “yes”. do you think honestly she has a publicist? of course she doesn’t. so ny times calls you and says they want to do an article. you say “yes”. get over your highmindedness and apologize for being a dick.

  5. Mike Abraham said,

    on July 25th, 2005 at 4:44 pm

    “Poor Stephanie seems to be manifesting the promiscuity common to failed romantics.”

    — Hey. “The promiscuity and bitterness of the failed fomantic” is from The Year of Living Dangerously.

  6. on July 26th, 2005 at 4:20 pm

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  7. on August 21st, 2005 at 2:10 pm

    I have spent the better part of a year getting to know Stephanie Klein personally and have found your assessment particularly accurate. I have linked your quotation in my blog about her.

  8. on August 26th, 2005 at 9:45 am

    I agree with everything you said about Stephanie Klein and her blog and I am a woman. So, I guess I’ll be one of the rare ones. I’m also stupidifed as to why so many people (women in particular) are so drawn to her writing. It’s not horrible, but it’s just not believable. There is no sincerity in her writing and like Chris London said, it’s hard to find a reason to like her. And do you think “Illuminated” could have sounded a little less like they were in 8th grade by calling you a “dick”? Please. People just don’t like the truth and you nailed it.

  9. Kelsi said,

    on August 28th, 2005 at 10:42 pm

    Hmmm….”Illuminated” sounds suspiciously like Stephanie Klein’s current boyfriend, Phil. I guess he really does need as much of a life as he claims everyone else should get….especially since he seems to have plenty of time to run around to other people’s blogs to defend her.

    What a pathetic dick.

  10. on August 29th, 2005 at 1:58 pm

    […] A few weeks ago, I wrote a bit of commentary about Stephanie Klein and her blog. At the time I posted it, I thought to myself that maybe I went a bit over the edge as I really didn’t know this woman from Adam’s off ox… so why was I roasting her? I decided that my oppinions are no better or worse that any else’s, so I let fly. […]

  11. Robotnik said,

    on September 6th, 2005 at 5:08 am

    why in hell would you waste all this time writing about Stephanie Klein?? Dude, this is a futile undertaking. She sucks bollocks. That’s it. That’s all it needs.

  12. Tim said,

    on September 6th, 2005 at 8:28 am

    Funny you should ask that Robo… I got caught up in the moment! I
    saw the article in the NY Times… went to her site and found a kinda
    good lookin’ chick, successful, decent writer… yet totally unable to
    deal with her personal life.

    People like that interest me. I want to know why people like her…
    given talent and looks… always seem so unhappy and so unfulfilled.
    It’s like I want to find out what is broken.

    So… I admit I spent waaay too much time reading her blog just to get the
    insight I needed… when done, it just seemed reasonable to put pen to
    my thoughts…

    Two hundred emails later… I find my analysis of the Stephster was
    about right on.

    Thanks for the comment.

  13. on September 27th, 2005 at 7:10 pm

    […] Funny thing too… the less I blog, the more email I get. Go figure! Maybe that explains why nobody links to me. Technorati is a wasteland for my blog… I am still getting mail and comments on Steph Seems that post has a life of its own. […]

  14. on October 4th, 2005 at 6:06 pm

    […] Anyway, I generally do not do much in depth analysis of other bloggers (except for the famous Stephanie Klein thing which will never die methinks. Anyway, it is probably unfair to treat her her like someone who had to go to eBay for romance. In person, she is bright and funny… a bit offbeat, and MUCH better looking than any picture on her blog, and always wears big clunky shoes… a habit she will soon probably forego once she knows that wearing those things in the tropics will give her a raging case of toe nail fungus. Ewwww! […]

  15. cleo said,

    on October 28th, 2005 at 2:24 pm

    for the record (the legal record that is)…stephanie is NOT divorced. I checked the public record.

  16. on October 31st, 2005 at 1:03 am

    […] Neil:  "Excellent question.  No, there are others.  Once New Yorkers become interested in something, they tend to talk about it so much that even those from far away take an interest in their weird obsessions — for example, look how America quickly took to that moronic Donald Trump.  Or let me quote what Tim had to say about Stephanie Klein on his blog.  And he lives in Costa Rica:" […]

  17. on January 9th, 2007 at 10:20 pm

    […] Alex Blagg: A Modest & Indecent Proposal Young Manhattanite: And That’s What it is All About Young Manhattanite: It’s Like Faking An Orgasm With A Blow-Up Doll Young Manhattanite, Tastes Like Chick-Lit sf’ist: Get Ur Geek On fishbowlNY: Imposters!How dare you! Only I can blog about my fabulous and fascinating sex life! The Lusty Lady: a very Malice entry Lindsay Roberston: someone’s head is so far up her own “rosebud” A Tale of Two Sisters: a public service announcement from the fabulous goldsteins Subtext Whore: The De-Klein of Miss Klein HollywoodPhony.com: Yet if I was to punch you, I would go to jail Luke Ford: Chris London vs. Stephanie Klein MeMe First: The weblog internet queen of Manhattan Bring Back Sincerity: The Compelling Story of the Girl Who STILL Worries About Her Weight Capital Region People: The “Craptacular” Stephanie Klein Overheard in New York: The Voice of the Big Apple-Blogga Please His Fault: Why Stephanie is still single TMFTML: Your blog is so self-indulgent Stephanie Klein sent you a box of tampons and a note that says, “Get over it.” Gawker: Greek Tragedy: The Blogger Book Deal DC’ist: what circa-1999 blogger do we go for next who will have a sense of humor about it? Stephanie Klein already has people lining up across the Mid-Atlantic to mock her, and she gets mad. Yawn. We’ll stick to the locals -quoting The Cleveland Park Junior League Lindsayism: Straight up & Braggy: The Other Side of Fame Alex Blagg: The Greek Tragedy Alex Blagg: Profiles in Douchebaggette’ery […]

  18. on January 9th, 2007 at 10:24 pm

    […] When I read it, despite my off hand knowledge of the numerous pieces written out there critiquing the blog, Stephanie Rosenbloom, the writer for the NY Times, presumably does either (a) not use google search as part of her research or (b) is one of a gaggle of Stephanie Klein’s female writer friends in her network or (c) her piece was the result of yet another Girl Crush. There are some quite pointed, poignant and otherwise fair critiques of her blog out in blog land, including one entitled Profiles in Douchebaggette’ery and still others questioning her originality as well as her overall smarminess. These critiques some how escaped mention in Ms. Rosenbloom’s column since apparently all Stephanie has are “fans.”Greek Tragedy has been critiqued widely by many bloggers on the internet for being nothing more than an utterly vapid and self indulgent rip off of Sex and the City and character Carrie Bradshaw, created by Candace Bushnell. One blogger satirized her blog in a piece entitled Soap Bloggera. There is also now even a smart parody of her site, see A Tale of Two Sisters. In essence, many have found Stephanie as shallow as a kiddie pool. One writer has even given a most accurate assessment as to Why Stephanie is Still Single: […]

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